The most important skill that influences our success or failure in life is self-confidence. This is what an employer looks for when hiring a person. We look for this when buying from someone. Self-confidence is what draws us to others and in turn what draws other to us. If we don’t have the skill of self-confidence, we’re useless.
What is self-confidence?
So what is self-confidence? Self Confidence: the ability or the belief to believe in yourself to carry out any task no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity. It is the belief that you can do it.
Some of you are already saying “Great, I don’t have that. There is no way. I’m too shy.” Don’t lose hope. This is a skill that we can develop.
How do you improve it?
A great example of this is the movie Karate Kid.
Wax on, Wax off. Sharpening and developing a skill requires repetition, repetition, repetition.
Depending on who you read, you will find that Thomas Edison took 1,000 to 10,000 times to get the light bulb right.
JK Rowling took her book to 13 publishers before getting a yes.
So what do we need to repeat to develop our skill of self-confidence?
- Self affirmation
Thoughts influence actions. Therefore our words to ourselves influence actions.
Mohammad Ali: “I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.” Look up some of his other quotes. This man knew how to improve his self-confidence.
There are enough people bringing us down. So we don’t need to do it to ourselves. We wake up in the morning bringing ourselves down. We say, “Man, I’m so tired. I’ve got so much to do! This week is going to be exhausting. I don’t know how I’ll ever get everything done.”
How many times have you started out your week like this? I know I have more than I can count. We’ve got to replace every negative with a positive. “I’m so energized to start the week. I’m going to carry out everything I need to do. I’ve got so much energy that I can’t contain it.”
A great example of this is Dr. Ivan Joseph, an award-winning coach and educator, wrote himself a letter of accomplishment that he could pull out and read when his confidence was low.
So write your own letter praising yourself for your accomplishments. Focus on the positive. Find the good you’ve done and write it down. Save your letter for times when you’re self-confidence needs a boost.
Building self-confidence in others:
Finally, how can you build self-confidence in others:
Find the positive behavior and praise that to reinforce it. Ignore the mistakes and praise the accomplishments and performance will improve. Catch them when they are good!
No one will believe in you unless you believe in yourself first.
Find out more information on building that self-confidence by reading my blog post The Miracle Morning. Subscribe for more tips on self-improvement and personal development.
“If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it—then I can achieve it.” Jesse Jackson